By Carolyn Castleberry, Halftime Coach
With regard to time, the Bible consistently helps us focus on the two things that matter most— our relationship with God and our relationships with people. In our first two parts, we discussed ways to manage our time for better focus and to strengthen our relationship with God. These next few parts will help us learn how to invest in our relationships with others, our work and our finances so that we can be effective in our lives and serve God wherever we are.
Time for Your Loved Ones
Volumes have been written on managing and maintaining our relationships, but I’m looking at this investment of our days simply in terms of time. So the best model for us to look at is Jesus. How did He do it?
Jesus invested His life and ministry primarily in twelve men, a small fraction of the many He influenced while He was on Earth. We can learn from Him to pursue fewer, but deeper relationships. As a Halftime coach, many of my clients struggle to find for their loved ones. Here are a few tips I give my clients that have led to amazing breakthroughs.
1. Limit Access to Yourself: Some simple strategies for this include turning your cell phone off, letting voice mail answer calls, shutting the door to your work-space, learning to say no and setting firm boundaries with those who will take advantage of your attention.
2. Be Sure your Relationships Reflect your Best Values: Consider your relationships in these three terms: your motivations, your desire to form a deeper relationship with a person and whether the relationship will be beneficial or potentially a bad combination to both of you. Someone whose personality or values bring out negative aspects in you may be best left as an acquaintance.
3. Leave Room to Grow: God often uses relationships as a tool to teach certain lessons. We learn to grow, change and mature from others. Yet we each may change in slightly different ways. It’s important then to acknowledge these differences and know when to let the person go or at the very least, grow.
Ask yourself these questions:
- What would Jesus do in this relationship?
- How much time is this person taking from my schedule?
- Is this time that I enjoy giving?
- If I could invest in a relationship with anyone, who would it be and why?
Talk through these questions with your Halftime coach and figure out ways you can better invest your time with your loved ones.