Everyone knows that to be successful we have to make some sacrifices. Great athletes spend a lot of time in the gym and doing roadwork and preparing both mentally and physically. Great musicians we admire write, perform, and practice endlessly to get it right. Business leaders educate themselves and work tirelessly to be their best. There is nothing wrong with all of this striving as long as it is all in line with what really matters most to us. But oftentimes, that is not the case. I meet
Change is bound to happen to each of us at one time or another. High flying and fast moving careers are no exception. Perhaps you are dealing with a major career shift. Your company or role is being downsized or maybe you’ve decided on your own that some kind of change is necessary. It’s important to remember that even if everything changes for you, it’s not the end of everything. It seems kind of counterintuitive to say, but it could be the greatest day of your life. Here’s
To operate at your best and most fulfilled, it is critical that you know your strengths and your purpose. But I like to say that knowledge is a tool and not a solution. Your purpose and calling emerges not in a day or in an assessment. Or in a heartfelt prayer—or even two. The significance you rightly look for is unlikely to arrive, boom, by epiphany. And that’s the good news. In my new book Trade Up, I stress that it’s in the journey, your journey, that good things
How Your Schedule Could Be Sabotaging Your Parenting It’s about to be Father’s Day again, but in a way, every day in a family is Father’s Day. Fathers play a critical role in how the next generation turns out, and these days there are a lot of dads who are just not doing their duty. They are good people and they have the greatest of intentions, but the follow through is lacking somehow. I understand. I know the struggles firsthand. In some ways, the more successful you are, the
When a parent pleads “my crazy schedule” for why he or she is ghosting the kid’s event, or family time in general, if he or she will hear me, I have a pretty practical response. Ninety-nine percent of the men and women we work with are textbook type A’s, shrink-wrapped into their calendars with no margin in the day. Zero. Most of them are cell-phone dependent, doing life by the quarter hour. When we tell them, almost first thing, to open their calendars and clear out hours—plural—it’s like waving scissors at a patient’s morphine drip.
Somewhere along the way we mislabeled success. We put numbers on it and believed that those numbers are all of the variables that go into being successful. But what if the definition is broader than that? What if true success is about following your calling, using your gifts, and making a difference? Can you do all of that and find happiness, too? The truth is, true success and happiness are inseparable from each other. Think about it. If success and happiness were only about the numbers then everyone who
If all of the statistics are right, most of us are merely doing what’s next and not what’s us. It is almost like we’re sleepwalking through life. The Gallup Organization says that only one in five of us are doing what we do best every day. So, is it possible to be successful and content in our work? If it is, why aren’t more of us doing it? Success and contentment are the end product of two ingredients: 1) We figure out who we really are and how we are wired
We’ve all heard the story of David and Goliath. David was an afterthought in everyone’s mind when he showed up with his slingshot and his five smooth stones. What happened next has lived on in legend for many centuries and will continue to live on for many reasons. I think one of those is the powerful question that David asked of his brothers and those who stood nearby, cowering in Goliath’s shadow and presence: Is there not a cause? Notice that David didn’t ask to see a battle plan
I suppose it’s happening somewhere, in some corner office every day. It’s that gnawing feeling that defies description. You’ve followed the rules, built a great career, educated yourself to prepare, and climbed the ladder of success to the very top rung. So, here you are, and somehow it isn’t all that it’s cracked up to be. You have more than enough of everything and still it doesn’t satisfy. We were all told that that kind of meteoric rise would be life-changing and it would fill a deep need that
Dean Niewolny shares about a new book by Halftime Director of Global Coaching, Jeff Spadafora. Have you ever wondered why you’re not experiencing the joy and peace God promises? I was staring face to face with this question in 2006. I remember looking out of the window of my corner office in downtown Chicago. I was a leader in the financial services sector, overseeing a thriving business of over $100M. I remember thinking, “I should be the happiest person in the world. By society’s standpoint, I have made it.