By Lloyd Reeb

A few years ago we began to explore one of the most frustrating challenges that Halftimers face –   “I can’t find something I am really passionate about.” There are four common causes for this frustration. With these frustrations we have a few steps to help you move past them.

If you see yourself in one of these scenarios I encourage you take us up on our “hour of free coaching” offer to talk with a Halftime coach to leverage their expertise in moving you deeper into discovering your passion. Your passion may be hidden in plain view.

Case Study #1:

Ken ran a manufacturing company for 28 years. When I first met him he told me emphatically that he had no passions. I dug a little deeper by asking if he had a favorite movie. Sure enough he’s watched the movie Seabiscuit seven times. It’s about a race horse and jockey who came back to win after a serious injury. He loves it when the jockey is able to get back in the saddle. I asked if there was something he did in the last month that made him really come alive and he shared how he recently helped a long-time employee who had hit rock bottom in life. While these deep passions had not connected in Ken’s heart it was obvious to those around him that Ken’s passion was hidden in plain view – he loves putting people “back in the saddle” of life. This new awareness brings richness to his CEO role as he looks for employees, customers or suppliers who may have fallen out of the saddle and intentionally reaches out to offer help. Ken found that he could live out his second-half calling on his existing company platform, but it is changing not only how he allocates his time at work but also how he measures the results.

Action: What are the movies you love and why? What have you done in the past month or two that made you really come alive or the time slipped by without notice? Share those with a few friends – ask them what they see that you can’t see? Perhaps you’ve been so focused on your career that you haven’t experienced many of the deepest human needs at a heart level.

Case Study #2:

This was my personal experience. I was so focused on developing real estate in my first half that when I reached “Halftime” I had little firsthand experience of the diverse needs in the world. So over several years I began to seek out opportunities to really experience a variety of ministries, not only reading about them, but going to experience it. For six months I spent a half day a week mentoring men in prison. I helped a ministry with a property acquisition for a drug rehab center, played basketball with kids in a slum in Manila, did a “head office relocation study” for a major non-profit and managed a project taking American farmers to train poor Albanian farmers.

I was surprised to find that the first step towards discovering something that I am so passionate about today was to get to a place where I allowed my heart to break for what breaks God’s heart.

Action: Read stories of what others are doing with their second half and reflect on how those stories touch your heart. The book The Second Half is designed for this precise reason – explore 25 different stories in this large-format coffee table book – www.halftime.org/thesecondhalf – and use the book as a tool to facilitate a conversation with your spouse.Allocate time to experience an array of ministries –  local, national and international, and then debrief your experiences with your spouse and friends.

If you can relate to Ken and I, contact us about scheduling a free hour of coaching to see how you can find more joy, impact and balance in your life.

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Lloyd Reeb
Lloyd Reeb is a successful real estate developer and retirement housing owner who made a mid-life transition, looking for greater meaning, joy and impact in his second half. To his surprise he discovered that he was not alone in this journey and that many talented leaders are longing for midlife renewal.

Lloyd has had the privilege of investing 20 years helping leaders plan their second half. He helped launch the Halftime Institute, a global team that teach, coach and connect successful men and women in pursuit of significance.

In Lloyd’s words, “When all you've done or own seems to matter less …and your heart craves more meaning, joy and balance...when something triggers in your mind that you're entering your second half of life and you're unsure what your calling is for the next season... you’re in Halftime.”

Lloyd has taken the Halftime message around the world: speaking, teaching and coaching individuals through the journey. As a result, he understands the issues that surround your Halftime in a deep and practical way.

He is the author of From Success to Significance: When the Pursuit of Success Isn’t Enough, which is a road map for this mid-life transition. His book The Second Half: Real stories, Real adventures, Real Significance provides compelling evidence that your second half could be the most creative and productive season of your life.

Lloyd and his wife, Linda, have written the book  Halftime for Couples. His latest e-book is Finally Connected: Deep, Rewarding Relationships in your Second Half.

Lloyd and Linda live on Lake Norman in North Carolina. They have three adult children - 2 daughters and 1 son - plus a daughter-in-law, son-in-law, and 1 granddaughter.

Checkout Lloyd's articles:

Five Powerful Halftime Habits

Seeing the Hero In Being A Servant

A Write Way to Find Clarity

Check out Lloyd's TEDx Talk:

The Most Productive Years of Your Life May Surprise You