Words of Wisdom

Get Back Your Time: For Those You Love Most

Time for Your Loved Ones Volumes have been written on managing and maintaining relationships with those we love. When I am asked by my clients how I would approach sustaining these relationships, it’s simple: time. Investing time into the relationships of our loved ones is a simple, yet effective way of showing we care. So when seeking for a good model who demonstrated this investment, I think of Jesus. But how did He do it? Jesus invested His life, time, and ministry primarily into twelve men - a small

Get Back Your Time: For Those You Love Most 2018-06-08T16:18:36+00:00

10 KEYS TO MID-LIFE RENEWAL, Part 2

Reflections From A 20-Year Mentee of Bob Buford We all want to maximize our time on earth. Greater dividends in our relationships and our endeavors for the time and sweat equity we put in. Being a 20-year mentee of Bob Buford has taught me just that – how to have leveraged impact in all that I do.   Bob Buford was intent on a “100X return” - one hundred times the benefit or life change, as a result of giving his time and money to meet others’ needs. His standard wasn’t just multiplication - it was

10 KEYS TO MID-LIFE RENEWAL, Part 2 2018-05-17T15:51:22+00:00

10 KEYS TO MID-LIFE RENEWAL, Part 1

  Reflections From A 20-Year Mentee of Bob Buford Two weeks before my friend and mentor Bob Buford passed away, I took a day of silence. A day alone with God in the beauty of historic Pinehurst, North Carolina. For some reason, I brought my whole file of notes, learnings and conversations with Bob over our 20-year partnership. In 1998, we locked arms to build the Halftime Institute, but he shaped my mind and heart along the way. A typical mentoring time would be a 90-minute breakfast at the

10 KEYS TO MID-LIFE RENEWAL, Part 1 2018-06-06T02:28:34+00:00

Do You Know Yourself?

Do you know what you were put on this earth to do? I believe God wants us to be self-aware, to know ourselves and how fearfully and wonderfully we are made. Most people are not aware of how they are wired, their unique strengths, talents and gifts. Figuring those things out takes time and focus. And, it’s harder to find time and focus in a world where we are constantly interrupted. It’s possible to do, though, if you make it the goal. And, if you do figure all

Do You Know Yourself? 2018-04-06T22:03:05+00:00

What Makes A Marriage Thrive In Your Second Half May Surprise You

7 Tips to Put Into Practice Today I’ve been studying what it takes to thrive in our second half and to finish well. I want to finish life strong but at 56 I also want to know more about how people finish well. I’ve been studying this over the past 20 years of coaching high-capacity leaders and couples. From my observation, having people around me who will encourage and challenge me is one essential ingredient. A second is being in alignment with my spouse and putting her interests ahead

What Makes A Marriage Thrive In Your Second Half May Surprise You 2018-03-22T11:38:01+00:00

Key Metrics for Thriving Relationships

Metrics and relationships seem like oil and water, don’t they? The very idea of using metrics in a relationship seems at first glance a little cold and calculating. And yet the truth is we measure our relationships all the time: How we feel a friend or spouse responded to a comment we made over dinner out last night; or, they don't reach out to me as often as I reach out to them, etc. These are all measurements. And, they help us calibrate and manage our friendships. In our

Key Metrics for Thriving Relationships 2018-02-28T11:43:59+00:00

What’s Your Relationship Legacy?

This isn’t an article about romance. It isn’t about marriage. But it is about relationships: true, authentic peer relationships. Trust me when I tell you that you don’t want ride the waves of life without them. At the Halftime Institute, we serve men and women going through a season of discernment and re-focusing. For many leaders, by mid-life, high-stakes busyness has crowded out heart-level connections and by the time they get to halftime, the deficit shows. If that describes you, then it’s time for a serious one-eighty. Relationships are

What’s Your Relationship Legacy? 2018-02-13T15:12:46+00:00

FINDING CLARITY: The Secret Power of Heuristic Writing

"The Write Way to Find Clarity" I spend most days helping successful men and women find clarity for their second half. Clarity about their calling, about their spouse’s dreams and mission, and clarity about how they will measure the results. Any tool that helps them gain clarity is a friend of mine. There are a few secret weapons and one of the most powerful is Heuristic writing- “writing to explore and discover what I do not know.” A couple of weeks ago, I was speaking to a group in Southern

FINDING CLARITY: The Secret Power of Heuristic Writing 2018-02-02T12:51:04+00:00

G-R-O-W More Joy in Your Life

Much of our joy, or lack thereof, is related to clarity and focus, as I mentioned in my previous post. The lack of joy can often come from being frozen on the trigger of a decision in our lives. I’m not talking about “chicken or steak” decisions, but larger decisions like where to move, a commitment to truly get healthy, a new business to start, a new job to take, etc. We want to make a change, but we feel stuck. This inhibits joy and contributes to restlessness, discontent,

G-R-O-W More Joy in Your Life 2018-01-18T12:09:14+00:00

5 Steps to A More Focused and Joyful Life

Another new year is here. Time to ponder where we are and where we want to go in 2018. However 2017 was for you, let me encourage you with this: You can have a joy, impact and balance in the New Year. But, you are going to have to be proactive and you are going to have to get past the one barrier that shows up in almost all of my twelve-plus years of coaching here at the Halftime Institute: A lack of focus. In my experience, the most

5 Steps to A More Focused and Joyful Life 2018-01-11T17:03:05+00:00